Week II

through the lenses of a man

John Berge

"But this has been at the cost of a woman's self being split into two. A woman must continually watch herself. She is almost continually accompanied by her own image of herself. Whilst she is walking across a room or whilst she is weeping at the death of her father, she can scarcely avoid envisaging herself walking or weeping."

This is true women are constantly having to look over their shoulder because men are always watching. She also has to watch her actions because she never knows how a man might react to rejections. Some men do not know how to no as a response which leads to bad altercations. So for many of us women, we choose to ignore instead of engage with men we come across when we are alone.

"To be naked is to be oneself.To be nude is to be seen naked by others and yet not recognized for oneself. A naked body has to be seen as an object in order to become a nude."

Being naked is who you are naturally, this is how we were born. The naked body gets lots of recognition and attention from others, whether it's male to females. Females tend to compare themselves while men tend to admire, yet no one is truly seen when they are naked. Since the focus is just on your body and shape its as if you were only an object, not as an actual person.

Bell Hooks

"As their daughter I was taught that it was my role to serve, to be weak, to be free from the burden of thinking, to caretake and nurture others. My brother was taught that it was his role to be served; to provide; to be strong; to think, strategize, and plan; and to refuse to caretake or nurture others."

This caught my attentions because I know many girls have been brought up this way. They learn from a young age to just serve and please your man, but in todays society women actually have an education and have the means do provide for themselves, so of course there are women who would prefer to just be home taking care of kids.Yet there is also many women who are independent and can fully provide for themselves and do not need a man to strategize and think for them.

"Instead of wondering why men resist women's struggle for a freer and healthier life, I began to wonder why men refrain from engaging in their own struggle."

Men are so focused of resisting when a women brings something up, but men to shut women down when it comes to this. When in reality men should deal with there own internal struggles instead of shutting everything out.